Squash Your Working Mum Guilt with These 5 Points

Squash Your Working Mom Guilt with These 5 Points

Being a working woman and a mom is never easy. Deciding to be a working woman comes clouded with guilt and with time, you begin wondering if the decision you made was practical and not selfish. Most mothers worry about missing their children’s milestones, ensuring the safety of their kids, giving food on time, or missing an emotional connection with their children.

Furthermore, working moms have to deal with long working hours, terrible bosses, and deadlines that have to be met. All these can drive you on a guilt trip. However, the good news is that you don’t have to beat yourself about it.

Here are some five points to help you squash your working mum guilt.

  1. Plan Ahead

It’s easy to wake up and get caught up in the daily routine of waking the kids up, prepping breakfast for everybody, packing lunch, and ensuring that everybody is up and ready. By the time you’re leaving the house, everything seems messy, and you can’t seem to fully concentrate at work.

The best way to prevent this stress is to plan. Ensure that everything is prepared the night before including what you intend to make for breakfast and the uniform your kids need to wear. With time, you’ll notice how positive and energized you are for the day.

  1. Take Time Out to Spend with Your Children

Life sometimes gets so busy such that we forget that children are a priority, Take an off and spend the day with your children to get rid of mommy guilt. A break will help you reconnect with your children’ personality, appetite, and daily schedules.

  1. Set Realistic Expectations

It’s practically impossible to take part in every activity your children are involved in. It’s easy to beat yourself up about things you should have done but simply didn’t have time. Nonetheless, remember that you are a human being and you can’t physically do it all. Set realistic expectations for your role and allow for real life to happen.

  1. Remember that Challenges will always be Present

When you’re debating on whether to work or stay at home with the kids, remember that every role has its challenges. Stay at home moms find it difficult to get time to rest or take a shower especially when one has toddlers. Remind yourself that every mother has her challenges and you’re doing the best you can.

  1. Avoid People Who Cause You Guilt

Relatives and friends can make your life difficult by insisting that you should be a stay at home mom. None of these people should influence your decision. Find a way to avoid these people.

As a woman, taking time out and appreciating yourself as a working mum is essential. Follow the above tips to avoid the working mum guilt.

Why Mothers Make Better Entrepreneurs

People often talk about how difficult it is to start and run your own business. Entrepreneurs work long, hard hours, often for little recognition. They need to be able to multi-task and juggle numerous projects at once as they build their business and help it grow. Do you know who else does all of that on a daily basis? Mothers.

Mothers make excellent entrepreneurs, and this is more than just an opinion. The Kauffman Foundation released studies that show that venture-backed businesses with a woman in charge create 12% more revenue and are more resilient to market and financial crises. The skills that are necessary in entrepreneurship are many of the same ones crucial for successfully navigating motherhood: just take a look for yourself.

Mothers know how to prioritize

When you’re trying to coordinate the educational and extracurricular calendars of three children who are all involved in different activities on top of finding time to cook, clean, and have a whole professional career to boot, you need to learn which things to prioritize and which ones can be put off until later.

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: Juggling responsibilities is like spinning plates; some plates, the important ones like family, health, loved ones, and self-care, are delicate and need the most attention to make sure they don’t break. Then, from there, you prioritize down and eliminate or delegate whichever tasks you won’t have time for. And speaking of delegation…

Mothers know how to delegate

Any mother will tell you that if you try taking on too much at once you’ll end up with more of a mess on your hands than when you started, which is why delegation is such a crucial skill to have in your arsenal. Things like assigning chores and having children take on some responsibility around the house can go a long way in the vein of helping you stay organized and making sure everything gets done.

Mothers know how to inspire a team and motivate others

By default, mothers are constantly in ‘sales’ mode. Whether it’s trying to convince a messy toddler that they want to take a bath or convincing your teenager that they need to go to school, you’re put in the position of salesperson quite often. When it comes time to sell your clients on signing a contract or convince them to stay with your business, you’ve already got the experience you need to help you navigate your pitch effectively.

How Parents Can Avoid Meltdowns Over the Holidays

As every parent with children knows, meltdowns (especially those in public), become an unwelcome part of life. While it’s normally random when these tantrums will occur, they are most likely to happen during the holiday season. After all, kids who don’t know how to express their emotions yet can become just as stressed as you do this time of year. Whether you’re a new parent or one who just needs some new techniques to try, below you’ll find tips for avoiding those dreaded meltdowns during the holidays.

Prepare for Problems

Whether you’re going to a recital or a friend’s holiday party, packing a “just in case” bag for a meltdown can save you when you need it the most. While what you pack should be based on the personality of your child, some top items to consider bringing along include:

  • Snack and Juice
  • Favorite Toy
  • Paper and Crayons
  • Headphone for Music/Games/Movies
  • Tablet

Monitor Your Schedule

While there might be a lot of holiday parties to attend, bringing your children to too many can upset their normal schedule. While attending a few events is certainly fine, you may want to cut down on the total amount on your calendar. Before making your way out, check to make sure you’re checking the following needs off your list:

  • Is your child fed? Will there be food for them to eat at the party?
  • Will there be a place for your child to sit down and rest while you’re there?
  • When you leave, will your child have enough time to unwind before bed?

Set Expectations

Before going on any type of outing, let your child know what they can expect. This should include going over rules, fun activities, downtime, food, and other important details. This will set their expectations so they can avoid disappointment.

Have a “Can Do” Attitude

Your little one might get upset when they can’t touch all the toys at the store or play in the same room as the adults at a party. So, instead of telling them “no”, why not give them things to do? At the store you could let them pick out the fruit and at the party you could have them help look after a younger child. When you make them feel important, they’re much more likely to keep their cool.

 

Millennials & Parenting

Twenty years ago, the last things we were thinking about is our children growing up and having kids themselves. We didn’t worry about sustainable energy or even imagine online communities and communication. Our parenting skills were simple. However, those parenting skills have shifted greatly, but have also been passed down to the millennials. Here’s a look at some ways millennials are changing parenting.

Technology

The use of technology has allowed millennials to establish communities based around parenting. In today’s world and society, time, distance, and travel makes it very hard to get answers fast without the use of technology. Technology and social media platforms allow parents to get advice, help, and quick answers online. It also establishes a community of support. Millennial parents are able to learn and grow from one another, all with the use of a phone or computer.

Technology also allows children to develop learning skills at a younger age through the use of interactive learning apps and games. For millennial parents, education is very important when it comes to their children. Through the use of technology, children and parents are also able to interact with distant relatives and family. This allows Millennial parents that live farther away from their relatives to interact at more frequent times.

Urban Living

Back in the day, the typical American Dream family picture included a suburban house with a green lawn and white picket fence. Today however, the American Dream has changed entirely. Millennials are staying in urban areas, enjoying their ease of access to restaurants, family activity centers, and overall community interaction. Millennials also grew up in a time where technology and the economy have taken a turn several times, therefore learning how to work hard and deal with the hardships. As many reports show, millennials don’t like to spend money more than they have to, therefore it is cheaper to live in most urban settings. This also allows them to teach their children that less is actually more, just as they learned while growing up. Living in urban settings allows millennials to save money, while also helping contribute to growing communities and establishments.

Health & Stewardship

Millennials focus a lot of their time and money on doing what’s write for the environment and their overall health. Millennials are the largest group of people who are focusing to fight climate change. Taking these steps to healthier life styles will allow their children to learn and grow the hardships and downturns the environment has taken. As the life expectancy continues to grow, the environment must continue to get cleaner. Millennials are the largest spender of sustainable energy and food products for a healthier environment to live in.

Norms  

Millennial parents are changing the norms. For example, The Atlantic reported a study that 57% of people aged 26-31 were having kids outside of marriage. Millennials don’t see marriage as a priority to have a family anymore. Another thing is raising their children as gender neutral. More and more parents are forgetting gender colors and toys and raising their children to be gender neutral. For example, who says ever said that Barbie was only for girls? Or that girls can’t skateboard? Millennial parents are changing the societal stereotypes to become a more accepting overall community.

4 Post-Baby Belly Workouts

As a new mom, you know how difficult it is to get back into the shape you were before your baby. You’ve gone through the pregnancy and delivery and are now wondering how you can get rid of the paunch you have leftover from those long months of carrying your child. It’s likely you’re incredibly busy, exhausted, and feeling discouraged about accomplishing the goal of improving your abdominal muscles, but it’s certainly possible! There are hundreds, probably thousands, of resources online. I’ll give you a list of simple exercises that are proven to help you improve your core strength, which is the vital first step to dropping the weight and toning your body!

 

  • Pelvic Tilt

This exercise is fairly basic and referenced on various lists about getting back into shape after a pregnancy. Just lay flat on the floor with your feet hip-width apart and straighten your arms out at your sides. Align your spine with the floor and make sure it’s straight, then inhale and exhale as you raise your hips up off the ground. Tilt your pelvis and squeeze your abs, then hold for a couple breaths before lowering back to the ground. Do 10 reps.

 

  • Plank

There are nearly endless variations on the plank, but the two classic ones you should use are the ball plank and a side plank. For the ball plank, assume a typical plank position, but rest your arms on top of an exercise ball. Hold the position for at least 30 seconds, repeat 5 times. For the side plank, lay on your side and place your forearm underneath your shoulder to support your body. Straighten the rest of your body, stack your feet, and stabilize your core. Hold for at least 30 seconds and then switch to the other side. You can add leg lifts if you feel comfortable.

 

  • Plank Vinyasa

 

This exercise is a yoga pose which puts an interesting twist on the typical plank. Get into the normal plank position, lowering onto your forearms if necessary. Once your body is straight, inhale, then exhale as you pull a leg into your chest area while contracting your abdominal muscles. Return to typical plank position and then switch legs. Alternate for 10 to 20 reps, whatever you feel most comfortable doing.

 

  • Alternating Twist

To do this exercise, lie on your back with your feet flat on the floor. Interlace your fingers behind your head, but make sure not to strain your neck. Inhale, and as you exhale contract your abs and lift your head off of the floor. Move your right elbow toward your left knee as you pull your knee toward you. Hold for a couple of breaths, then return to your starting position. Do the same on the opposite side and continue alternating knees until you reach a rep of 10.

Working Moms and Their Children

Working mothers face a lot of scrutiny. They’re expected to still remain the primary caretakers of their children on top of having a job, either full or part time. Working mothers often get asked questions like, “How do you balance work and family?” and “Who watches the kids while you’re away?,” questions rarely – if ever – asked of the father. While working mothers often feel the burden of guilt over choosing to have a career, they should feel guilty no more. Working moms, rejoice! New psychological studies have found that working mothers tend to have happier children than stay-at-home moms while also being happier themselves.

There are ever-growing amounts of research saying that helicopter parenting harms kids more than it helps them. A study of college students found that children given their independence report satisfaction, better health, and confidence as young adults, where children of helicopter parents are more likely to experience anxiety, depression, and self-doubt in their decisions. In fact, according to a University of Michigan study, the amount of time that parents – both mothers and fathers – spend with their children before their teenage years has little to no impact on the child’s performance socially, academically, or emotionally.

In fact, it’s not until the child’s teenage years that more time spend with a parent can help reduce delinquency. What actually makes a difference in the children’s lives is income: family income is a much bigger predictor of whether or not a child will have successful development than the amount of time spent with parents. This isn’t to say that people who are rich will have better kids, but rather higher household income for each income bracket correlates to better child development. An economically stable environment is more important in a child’s development than having a parent constantly present. So, working moms, if you’re working to give your child a better life, keep it up. You’re doing the right thing.

Mothers who work at least part time are happier and have better health overall as compared to stay-at-home moms.
Mothers who work at least part time are happier and have better health overall as compared to stay-at-home moms.

On top of having happier children, working mothers themselves are also happier than their stay-at-home counterparts. A study from the American Psychological Association said that mothers who are employed part time report fewer symptoms of depression and better overall health than mothers who stay at home with their children.

Moms, enjoy spending time with your children, but also enjoy taking time for yourself. Your children will thank you for it, and you’ll thank yourself.